Thursday, January 14, 2010

No more Anonymous Comments

I had to change the options for my comments. I have been getting some really nasty comments that contain both very vulgar language and accusations. I don't need the stress of those comments any more.

Without going into too much detail, I do want to explain what was said so it will be better understood as to why I am no longer allowing anonymous comments.

One comment began telling me how I must have stepped out on Josh because I had "the kissing disease" and he didn't. Let me explain that one right now...I had mono when I was 13 or 14, and I am almost 100% sure that I got it from a public drinking fountain, and for the simple fact that I had it then meant I still have it, it just flares up from time to time. That is why Josh didn't have it. There were several names in with that comment that I won't repeat, they were very vulgar and the whole comment was filled with profanity.

The other comment that I received just this morning was telling me that they hope I die in child birth, and that the baby dies as well.

I just can't take these very abusive comments anymore. I'm for those that commented under anonymous and were nice and respectable, but due to what I am dealing with, I have no other choice. I'm truly sorry!

Please pray for me and Josh as we deal with this.

35 comments:

Mimi said...

I'm so sorry you received such mean comments... some people feel it necessary to be not only ugly but down right mean!!!

I hope you can just ignore them and not give them the satisfaction of even responding...

I'm praying for you and your little baby as well as Josh as you go through this most precious time together...
Hugs,
Mimi

amulbunny said...

Geez Kristina, some people have no brains at all.

I may not agree with everything you believe, but I would never ever wish harm on you or anyone.

My son got mono when he was 11 and kissing girls was not anywhere near his mind----girls = cooties.All I know is that I had a sick kiddo and it took a lot of time, love and care to get him well.

I wish you the best for your pregnancy, and your marriage. Pamper yourself and enjoy being pregnant.

God Bless!

Jennifer said...

Just ignore those mean comments!! They have nothing better to do with there time and they need God! congrats on the new baby coming and hope all goes well!

Ashley said...

I'm sorry that you have had to deal with such comments. I know it's easy to say "don't let it upset you", but I know that I would certainly be upset.
Just so you know, all the time I have read your blog over the years it's been a great blessing to me!

Becca said...

Hi Kristina,

I am a lurker but I'm coming out to say that while you and I have very different outlooks and beliefs, I would never wish any ill on you or your baby. I want you to know that the majority of non-Christians are NOT like that, and it makes me sick that somebody would say such awful things to you. I hope you have a joyful pregnancy!

Best,
Becca

Teresa said...

What?! I cannot believe that people would be so mean. I mean, I believe it because it obviously happened, but I just don't understand how people can be so cruel. I read your blog and was so happy to hear that you're expecting. Spend no time on those nasty comments and cherish the joyful ones. Many blessings for you, your husband, and your new baby.

Mrs W said...

This must be the same person that attacked Jessica. It must be somebody that knows both of you and doesn't like you.

Just because someone doesn't agree with your choices and the way you live your life doesn't mean they should wish death on you! Your blog has been under scrutiny by women who hate patriarchy, that much I know. They make a mockery of your blog. I'm not sure why they hate yours so much, makes me think that, again, it's someone that knows you, because your blog is very small fry in the patriarchial blog pond.

It makes me embarrassed for some of those ladies. Please know that there are some of us that are very much against courtship, and against certain tenets of patriarchy, like myself, who do not wish you any harm.

Our Family Is His said...

I normally lurk, but I have to comment now. Some people are so sad in their lives, so lost, so miserable, that their only fun is hurting other people and trying to make them feel as bad as they do. Do not give into such horrible people. Rise above. Let Christ's light shine.

BTW, congratulations on your baby. What a journey you are both about to undertake. It's worth every second of struggle.

And, last, people that commented on you "stepping out" obviously are uninformed on how mono is transmitted. Kissing is far, far, far from the only means of passing it on.

FREEDOM FROM SIN said...

I love reading your blog. You are so much like your mother. I'm really thrilled for you and Josh on that baby in layaway. I had the Epstein-Barr virus (mono) when I was 13 along with bronchitis and was down for almost the entire summer. To this day, and I'm 46, I still tire easily. My daughter, Emily, who is 14, was diagnosed last year and still suffers. It really should never have been called the "kissing disease".

I don't know you or your mother personally, but the spirit within you both bears witness with my spirit that you are saved.

Be encouraged, press on and enjoy this new phase of your life. Congratulations!

Becky

Kelly said...

Chiming in on another who disagrees and has even been pretty specific on my disagreement with some things you have put forth as fact but can't believe that people did that.

I had mostly opted to stay anonymous not from you (I screwed that up the one time I posted from my google account!) but rather from readers.

Anyhow, here I am outed, treemom. I am very sorry that people chose to act in such a terrible way.

Avital said...

It is so sad that people think they can say anything - mean things that they would never say to some one's face because they can hide behind "anonymous" on the internet. I also do not allow anonymous comments on my blog - it also stops spam comments with advertisements in them.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, may the coming months be filled with joy as you enter this new season. Many blessings on you and Josh!

PS. I got mono from sharing a water bottle in high school.

Sis. Julie said...

I was very saddened and angry when you told me about those comments but then I had to remember about that just as I have every other attack our family has had put against us recently that we fight not against flesh and blood. These people a being used of the devil to try to seek and destroy.

I'm so proud of you for how you have handled it and do pray that without you realizing it that it won't affect you in any way.

I'm so thrilled for you and Josh and can't praise the Lord enough for how you two have honored Jesus with your lives!!!! I look forward to watching you "grow" (he,he) and sharing in this experience with you. I've had to miss out on it with Michelle but so look forward to sharing in it with you!!

I love you!!

PS.....Sis. Becky....you are soooooo sweet!! Your comment encouraged my heart so much!!! I really needed it today!! I love you!!

MRS.PALM PRETTY said...

i am a good friend of kristi from thimble thoughts. i found your blog thru her. anyway, i am sorry that you are getting bad comments from those people.. more than likely, it is someone that knows you, and are very unhappy that you are happy. i think you made the right decision by not allowing those comments again. i want to thank you for a wonderful blog to read and i appreciate your stand for GOD.. it is truly a blessing and is very refreshing to read..visit me sometime, too.. thanks, love in Christ, dana

mylilboys2 said...

Kristina,
I have been reading your blog for a while you are such a sweet heart and how people could wish bad things to happen to you and your family is beyond me.
Congrats on your new lil joy on the way!

Felice Cline said...

Kristina,I don't normrally comment but today I read your post and let me say this there is no need to explain yourself at all! This is just the devil working really hard to destory God's people because he knows his days are numbered. Continue in doing His will and remember you are in His hands I will pray for you and hope all goes well.

Lord Bless....

adanna86 said...

Wow!!! Thats cruel. I may not agree with you on everything. There is a proper and classy way to discuss your comments.However, that is totally uncalled for for those mean comments to appear. Do not let them stress you out. I hope you are doing okay. Take care.

Tracylea said...

Kristina,

First I wanted to let you know I have been praying for you daily. And I applaud your decision to close your comments. Good job.

Romans 1:28-32 (King James Version)

28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,

31Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:

32Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

Ignore the snarkers. The Lord will be their judge.

Blessings

Stephanie said...

Oh my goodness! I have had mono twice and it was never from kissing someone. Once was from my little sister and the other time, everyone in my class had it. It is really easy to catch----for someone to say that you were unfaithful to your husband is just plain rotten. Anyone can see you 2 are head over heels in love.
As for wishing a pregnant women death for her and her unborn child; that is stomach turning. Right now you need to be stress free. You should be looking forward to your upcoming arrival; not defending yourself to people who are to afraid to show their true names but aren't afraid to attack. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. You are a sweet, caring and gracious woman who only deserves happiness.
I will keep you, Josh and bebo in my thoughts and prayers.

Jennifer said...

wow, really? That's just beyond mean! Yes mono is the "kissing disease" but all you need to do is share any kind of contact with someone who had it. I'm pretty sure i got mono when I was 18 from sharing a soda with someone. Is Jessica ever going to unprivatize her blog? I use to enjoy lurking and reading her blog as well. Hope the combo of mono and pregnancy doesn't make you too tired!

Would you mind sharing some day what your schedule is like on an average day? I've always been curious what a typical day can be like for a keeper at home.

Jessica said...

That is horrible! Congrats on the baby! Enjoy pregnancy, it is wonderful, as is motherhood. :)

Cara said...

I am SO sorry those people were saying things like that, Kristina. For the record I don't share hardly any of your beliefs, but I would never wish any harm upon you or your family. I have a word for those people, but I won't say it on here. I really enjoy your blog. I find it fascinating to see how differently from myself other people live. Have you guys started talking baby names yet? I'm so excited for you!

Miss Melissa said...

I can't believe that people would be so mean as to say that you and your baby would die during the delivery! Mean people suck. Is "suck" OK to say here? Because it's really an appropriate sentiment in this case.

Blathering aside, I hope that you have a wonderful and uneventful pregnancy. Congratulations to you and Josh. :)

Courtney, Jer.33:3 said...

Love you, girl! Keep doing right and enjoy this wonderful time of pregnancy........bringing another of God's little blessings into the world. :)

Lori said...

I'm sorry to hear about the horrible comments that people have made.

Thank you for taking a stand on what the Bible says.

I'm praying for a healthy and safe pregnancy and birth.

Eight said...

I am so sorry that someone would have such sick hatred in his or her heart as to wish such a repugnant thing to a pregnant woman and take away even an iota of the joy that the news of your little one has brought to you and Joshua.
Please don't let others' cruelty stop you from writing your blog; you're an excellent writer with a loving, giving soul. So many of us enjoy reading about you and Joshua's adventures in your new marriage and can't wait to read about your latest one, motherhood!
Congratulations on your sixth month anniversary. News of a new little blessing is a wonderful way to celebrate. God bless the three of you,
Patricia

Erica said...

People can be so terrible some times. Don't let those comments get to you and just pray for those individuals. Congrats on the pregnancy! I'm expecting as well and am due in August!

amy7907 said...

Kristina,

Even though I do not agree with you on most of your stances (Hey, Treemom, it's QueenFrigid), I have found a new respect for you since you have been more than willing to answer questions in a very respectful manner.

Also, just because I do not agree with you, does not mean I do not like you or that I wish you or your loved ones ill.

I have never left you a comment, but this post made me a bit angry because no one should be this mean. You do not need the stress or aggravation.

Anyway, I just wanted to say congratulations on the baby! My only wish for you (and it's a good one) is that you do not experience morning sickness. I was very lucky when I had my daughter. I only had dry heaves.

May you have a good/easy pregnancy :)

-QueenFrigid

mother of the bride said...

Kristina,
Congratulations to you and Josh on your wonderful and exciting news. I am excited for you as your little family begins to grow.

Enjoy your pregnancy and each of the miraculous changes that you will experience.

I am sorry that there are cruel people who have attacked you personally. I can fully understand how upsetting that is because I have had it happen to me and by fellow Christians no less. It just plain hurts when it happens. I know that because of your faith, you have probably already taken this to God. Allow Him to work healing to your soul.

I will pray for you, Josh and the wee little blessing. Continue to keep us posted on your blog. It's so encouraging to see young couples being faithful to their convictions.

Hope said...

I am also a lurker but I wanted to tell you that I am VERY sorry for the harsh words. I can't believe people can say such hurtful things.

Anna Joy said...

Aww Kristina I'm so sorry to hear about this! I admire you VERY much for standing up for what's right! :)
God bless you and your sweet baby!

Ginger said...

Kristina!!!
That is the most horrible thing!!! I am sorry that someone woud say such horrible things to you!!

I do still check your blog when I have a chance. It's so hard finding time these days!

Praying for you!
Ginger~

stacykoca said...

I am de-lurking here to tell you I am appalled by what some people left as comments. It's sounds so trite to say "pray for those individuals" but I believe that would take a lot of the sting out of it. Happy, well adjusted people don't say ugly things like that. I can't imagine why they would write things to intentionally hurt another person, especially a person who doesn't goad others with mean spirited responses, or lack of respect.
You are obviously very happy,and have so much to look forward to as well. I am glad you are sharing your life with us. I am praying for an easy pregnancy and a healthy baby.

Marvin said...

Bless your heart. What terrible things to say to someone. Some people aren't happy unless they are being mean to someone else. God bless you in your pregnancy. I have a six month old daughter and it is wonderful.

k said...

I just wanted to say that it's terrible that people said that. 50% of children have been exposed to mono by age 5, and 90% of adults have been exposed by age 80. It doesn't always cause symptoms--especially in young children (which is why half of us have it then and don't show any signs). For those people to make those assumptions about you is not only mean, but completely ignorant.

witty said...

You don't have to drink at a public fountain to get mono. It's not uncommon to get mono after a period of total exhaustion (mental and physical) and lack of sleep. It's possible that causes it to flare up, too. I know it's called the kissing disease because it CAN be spread by kissing (or using a cup, spoon, etc. also used by someone infected), but getting it naturally is very common.