Monday, October 27, 2008

Seven Royal Laws of Courtship Part II

Chapter 1
Tenants of the
First Royal Law of Courtship

Part I of III

"By the grace of Almighty God, I will marry
the person God has created for me."

(My comments will be in Bold Italics)

Every young person has a secret desire to be happily married. You may never talk about it, but it is there. You may never admit it to your friends, but when you are alone you dream about it. There is a married couple in your church whom you secretly watch. They obviously have a very close, sweet relationship. During public prayer, you peek (young people are great "peekers") at them. You watch as the man slips his hand into his wife's as they pray together. You watch them talk and see the love communicated through their eyes. You see the gentleness that the husband uses when he is with her and the admiration for him that she displays with every look. You think to yourself, Is there someone like that out there for me?
God has created someone specifically for you! This is one of the greatest of all Biblical truths.
"And the Lord God caused a deeps sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh" (Genesis 2:21-24)
Eve was created as the perfect fit, the perfect complement to Adam. God made a woman specifically for him. You must believe that the Lord God has also created someone just for you.
A part of you is in that specific one created for you. Eve had a part of Adam inside of her. God took a piece of Adam, a rib, and placed it inside of Eve. I believe that God has done the same for most every young person whom He ever created. Someone out there has a part of you in him or her.
You will never feel complete until you meet this person. The great mystery of marriage is this: How can two people become one? Yet God stated that when two people marry, "they shall be one flesh." The answer is simple. Neither of the two were complete before they met. Both of them were missing a part of themselves that they could only find in the other. The divine longing that every young person feels, that incompleteness is there because of how God made us. It is a desire to be whole.
God will bring this person to you. God did not wake Adam and say, "OK, I hid her in the garden somewhere. Good luck finding her!" Nor did God take six ribs and create six women and then say to Adam, "Date each of these and choose the one you like the best!" In His time, God brought the one made for Adam to him.

Notice, God cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam: "and he slept." When God brought Eve, He woke Adam. In a real sense, God intends for young people to stay asleep in this area of their lives until the time God brings them to the one He has created for them. The world system, controlled by Satan works hard to awaken a young person early. Hollywood movies, romance novels, rock and roll songs, teen magazines and an array of other worldly influences put a lot of pressure on young people to have boyfriends or girlfriends. All of that leads teens to believe that something is wrong with them if they are not involved with someone. This leads to roller-coaster relationships, one right after another, leaving a young person emotionally exhausted and morally vulnerable. Relationships like there are not sanctioned by God and have resulted many times in the loss of purity of Christian teens. Relax! Rest! Be patient! And trust the Lord. He will bring to you His perfect will in His time.
Adam had to stay in the garden in order to meet Eve. Don't miss this! If you choose to leave the perfect will of God for your life, you sacrifice meeting the one God has created for you. This meeting will occur along the path of God's perfect will. Keep yourself pure. Save yourself for that special one. How serious it is to backslide! How perilous it is to choose to do what you want to do with your life instead of seeking God and His perfect will.
Your teenage years should be about preparation, not pursuit. As we will see in the chapters ahead, one of the primary activities of your teenage years should be preparing for the one God will someday bring to you. Begin now to pray for that person even though you probably don't know as of yet who that person is.

Part II of Part II coming tomorrow!

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Anna Joy said...

That is GREAT Kristina! May I link to it from my blog?

A Note From Theresa said...

Amen, and very good post!

Hi, I'm a blog friend of your mom. And I hope you don't mind, but I'll be back to read more of the wonderful posts on courtship.

Kristina said...

Anna Joy,

Yeah, you can link to me. I want as many young people and unmarried people to read this as possible.

Kristina said...

A Note From Theresa,

Thanks for coming by and reading. This book was a big blessing to me when I read it the first time...I have even read it several times over!