Seven Royal Laws of Courtship Part II

Chapter 1
Tenants of the
First Royal Law of Courtship
Part III of III


"By the grace of Almighty God, I will marry
the person God has created for me."

4. No one should be considered who claims to be saved but who refuses to dedicate himself/herself to the Lord and separate from worldliness. This is true because...
A) An undedicated and unseparated young person might not really be saved. "Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven" (Matthew 7:20-21)
You have no way of looking into the heart of another young person to know whether or not he/she is truly saved. So you must inspect his/her life to see what it produces. The outward appearance, actions and attitudes make up a young person's fruit. Anyone can talk the talk, but a person who is really saved will have the outward evidences of an inward conversion. If I do not see in a young person a desire to draw close to the Lord, and in doing so, draw away from worldliness, then I should not just assume that he/she is saved.
B) An undedicated and unseparated young person cannot know God's will for his/her life even if he/she is saved. As we already pointed out, those unwilling to dedicate themselves to the Lord and transform their worldy thinking are incapable of discovering God's perfect will for their lives. Do you really want to marry someone who cannot discern his/her divine purpose?
C) The unwillingness to dedicate his/her life to God exposes a character weakness. He/She may not be willing or able to dedicate himself/herself to you.
D) The unwillingness to separate himself/herself from the world exposes another character flaw. Will he/she separate himslef/herself only to you? If someone cannot be true to a perfect God, will that person be true to an imperfect companion?
E) If you are a dedicated Christian, your children will not have a unified example in the home. "My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother" (Proverbs 1:8) Question: how can your children obey this verse if his parents are teaching, by words and example, two different things?
F) You risk becoming a victim of divorce. "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" (Amos 3:3) There is one thing two people must agree upon if they are going to walk together. They must agree to walk the same direction. Many a Christian young person has settled on marrying someone who was not a dedicated Christian and has determined that he/she would be able to change his/her mate after marriage. Most end up either backsliding and living just like the other mate or divorcing.
My young friend, God has created someone just for you! Will you exercise the patience and wisdom needed to allow God to bring you to that person along the timetable of His perfect will? Will you enact the First Royal Law of Courtship as the law of your life? "By the grace of Almighty God, I will marry the person God has created for me!"

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